Kunya ba wani abun aibu bane da mutane zasu dinga guje mata, bal ma abu ne mai matuqar kyau ace mutum yana da ita, musamman ga mata, har mazan ma a wasu loqutan. Matsalar itace ta yaya zamu daina jin kunya yayin da muke tare da masoyan mu. Ko wanne mutum yana so wanda suke soyayya ya/ta zama ta/ya na sakin jiki da shi ko ita.
To ga hanyoyin da zaku iya bi domin rage kunyar da kuke ji yayin da kuke zaune da masoyanku a ko yaushe.
1. Ya zaman to munsan banbancin kunya da kuma kawaici.
Kar ka/ki taba bada haquri saboda ki/ka na jin kunyar masoyiyarka/masoyinki. Ka/ki sanar da shi/ita cewa jin kunya fa ba laifi bane, sanin mai zaka/ki kunya akai shine matsalar.
2. Ku yawaita zama a cikin 'yan uwa da abokan arziqi wadanda bakya/ka jin kunyar su domin saka ka cikin nishadi da jin dadi, hakan zai saka ka/kk rage jin kunya a loqacin da kuke zaune tare masoyanku.
3. Ka/ki zama kuna yawan tattaunawa ta yanar gizo gizo (facebook, twitter, whatsapp, instagram) da sauransu, domin mafi yawanci zamu ga cewa idan muna zaune a wuri daya ne muke jin kunya idan muna magana, amma in a social media ne bama jin wannan kunyar, wato ba kamar muna ganin mutum bane.
4. Idan zaka/ki iya ki/ka samu takarda ka/ki rubuta irin abubuwan da zaku tattauna kafin ko wacce haduwa, sai ka/ki dinga kwaikwayon yadda zaki/ka dinga maganar a gaban wani abokin/qawar ki/ka yin hakan zai rage kunya yayin da kuke tattaunawa.
5. Ko yaushe idan masoyinki/masoyiyarka masu son surutu ne, to kada ku kuskura ka/ki dakatar dasu idan suna yi, ka/ki saurari abin da suke fada kuma ka/ki dinga yawan nuna cewa ki/ka na gane abin da suke magana akai koda kuwa ba hakan bane.
6. Ka/ki dinga qoqari ka/ki na hada ido dashi yayin da ya/ta ke magana, yin hakan na rage jin kunya sosai har ta kai ga wataran za ka/ki iya kallon sa/ta na tsawon loqaci ba tare da jin wani abu ba.
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